Sshutle? It essentially makes traffic go through ssh from anywhere to anywhere. If you ssh into your machine, use sshuttle towards your local machine, I think you should be good

Home server! Not sure how CUDA support is, but exo/petals node for AI and stuff? Immich for photos, Nextcloud for files, homeassistant!

Immich. Just found out about it, still gotta try, but looks good, an app that allows you to configure a Google Photos like app locally hosted, with automatic phone backups